Tuesday, October 21, 2008

other people.

if your five year old daughter went to stay with her aunt for the weekend, would you expect that aunt to put your child first for the duration she was in her care? would you expect that aunt (a single woman of 41 with no children of her own) to respect your views on your childs safety and appropriate environment?

so if the aunt somehow loses the childs bike helmet. but insists that said child go out and cycle along a road and then round a lake without the helmet. even though the child knows knows knows that she is not allowed to so much as look at the bike without her helmet. and then later you get a call from your daughter, and she's really upset because her helmet is lost and because auntie said she still had to come out for a ride and did I want to talk to James?


can i speak to auntie?

auntie's in the bath, but james is right here, do you want to talk to him?

who's james?

he came for a sleepover in auntie's bed.

There is more to this story. she had a new boyfriend, had planned to stroll round lake with him. she'd also accepted an invitation to go to a large gathering of his family for sunday lunch. people she'd never met. an event that went on all afternoon. when we'd said we wanted to fetch her at 2pm because the drive home was long, she'd had 2 late nights and was still adjusting to full time big school.

she told us she'd bring P when the event was over.

my child is not a social prop.

we were livid. S said was should never have left P with her.

we went to the venue of unknown man's unknown family's gathering. we took our child. we did not make a scene. the aunt freaked.

S freaked. he's always been really intimidated by her. so he lied to me. twice. told me the following day he hadn't been in touch with her but in fact had already texted her and apologised. told her taking p home was "out of order"

when i caught him in his lie he packed his bags and made to leave. it was 1am. asked me what his sister had done that was so wrong and accused me of putting words in his mouth.


At 4:00 am, October 22, 2008, Blogger Mel said...

Did you let him leave?

If I had been in your shoes, I would have held the door open for him and helped him out by way of a kick in the ass with one of those shoes.

HOWEVER, I have a terrible temper and flatly refuse to allow anyone to use emotional blackmail on me.

And I further have to add that S is wrong. Wrong wrong wrong, and he is not putting his child's safety before the poor widdle hurted feelies of his (selfish, irresponsible) sister.

Wrong. He is utterly, utterly wrong. And to threaten to leave over something like this? Makes him childish and wrong.

/rant (And sorry if you hate me now, I just hate to think of the way he is treating you. THAT is wrong, too.)

At 8:41 am, October 22, 2008, Blogger dodo said...

he didn't leave because i talked him down. not sure why. i was shaking with rage. i didn't want to have to explain to p where daddy was in the morning. i told him that if he wanted to leave me then he shouldn'e pretend its about a row with his sister.

At 10:49 pm, October 28, 2008, Blogger HerImperialMajesty said...

" "
that'll be words failing me then!

At 8:28 pm, November 12, 2008, Blogger tshirt said...

holy shit.

also speechless, a la maj.

(update plz?)

At 8:30 pm, November 12, 2008, Anonymous lildb said...

argh. that last was me, lildb. am on random computer at the moment.


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