Friday, April 20, 2007

Tip of the iceberg

So there’s this man. Husband of my friend. Father of my daughter’s friend. My neighbour of six months. Who I barely know. Who stands in my kitchen on a sunny day and says

“isn’t it amazing how often you meet your partner’s friends, or the friends of your partner, and find you can’t stand them?”

And then

“Me and L, we’ve got enough friends. We’re not looking to make any new friends. You’ll get invited round for a bbq in the summer, but we don’t need any more friends.”

The next day I wait til he’s gone out. In one of their two large cars. Neither of which she drives. I ring the bell on the pretext of returning something. She takes an age to come downstairs. She looks awful. She’s been playing with her son in his bedroom. Her husband doesn’t like to see toys all over the house, so that’s mostly where the little guy hangs out. It’s 11am. It’s been a difficult morning after a difficult night. She knows the centuries thin wall between our homes was not designed with privacy in mind. She has a migraine. She’s visibly fading in and out. Turns out she hasn’t had so much as a glass of water that morning because she’s been entirely preoccupied with keeping the noise level of her son at bare minimum. I go downstairs to make her some tea. There’s no milk in the house. There’s barely anything in the fridge. I go to the store, get milk, juice, bread. Give her tea, apple juice and drugs. I scoop up her son and his shoes and creep away as she slides down the armchair in his room.

“P mummy go see wack wacks?” asks the 22 month voice

“Yes J, we’ll go and see the quack quacks.”

“Mummy sad.”


At 3:59 pm, April 20, 2007, Anonymous Alys said...

What a bizarre man! And what a fab neighbour you are to go and help her.

You really should live closer you know.

At 4:01 pm, April 20, 2007, Blogger dodo said...

living any closer to you might bring on severe kitchen gadget envy!

At 5:33 pm, April 20, 2007, Blogger Lisa said...

Sounds like she really, really needs you. And so happy you were there to help her. Her hubby sounds like a total jackass. WOw.

At 7:12 pm, April 20, 2007, Blogger Beccy said...

He sounds like a complete tosser. Good for you for ignoring his hints and going to help her.

At 7:30 pm, April 20, 2007, Anonymous Stephanie said...

OMG!! What a complete ass!!

Yes, she needs you. And it also sounds like she needs to dump him.



At 7:33 pm, April 20, 2007, Blogger dodo said...

I hate to speculate about what goes on in people's private lives (well, apart from celeb type people, obviously, so am total hypocrite) but they've been together since their teens and somehow it seems she's still very childlike - impressionable and somewhat bullied.

At 10:35 pm, April 20, 2007, Blogger Marymurtz said...

It's too bad you couldn't have punched him in the side of the head, but then you wouldn't even get the invitation to the BBQ. What a horse's ass!

At 11:34 am, April 21, 2007, Blogger Kerry said...

This is so sad.
You are a good friend.

At 3:03 am, April 22, 2007, Anonymous Anonymous said...

That poor woman. I'm glad you went over there, she needs a friend like you.

At 10:31 pm, April 22, 2007, Anonymous Anonymous said...

whoa-- that sounds really bad-- tread carefully-- hope she is open to help and change . .

And, about dog humping-- no, Daisy never humped but she does have a serious fetish for socks-- there are socks all over the house that she finds and "buries"



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